Chapter 2 – Emotional Neediness
- How attractive a man is inversely proportional to how needy he is. The needier he is in
his life, the less attractive and vice-versa. Women don’t judge a man’s status by the car
he drives or how many VIP tables he buys. They judge it by his behavior, and the
behavioral trait they pick up on is neediness. The opposite of neediness is actually the
root cause of female-to-male attraction.
- Women are generally only attracted to men who are less invested in them, than they are
in themselves. By investment I mean the degree in which you sacrifice/alter your own
thoughts/feelings/motivations for someone else. By less I mean that as a man, you
should only be willing to sacrifice your thoughts/feelings/motivations for a woman less
than she is willing to do the same for you.
- Neediness is felt. It’s intuited by women by watching a man’s behavior carefully. It’s why
women can often become turned off at the most innocuous moment or by the most
unimportant statement. Consciously, the action or statement may seem harmless, but
unconsciously, it conveyed a large amount of neediness.
- A rich man doesn’t need to tell people he’s rich. A confident man doesn’t need to tell
people he’s confident. And a guy who “doesn’t give a fuck” doesn’t need to go around
telling people he “doesn’t give a fuck.”
- Think about it, a guy who doesn’t derive his happiness and confidence in himself from
how often he gets laid, isn’t going to be willing to put up with a highly neurotic, dramatic
and emotionally unstable woman. It simply won’t be worth it. The little validation he
receives from being with her will not be worth the headache she gives him.
- There’s a lack of long-term relationships among pick up coaches in epic proportions.
Most of them are incapable of maintaining a lower level of investment than the woman
in the long run. This is because all of the tactics that they’ve learned and taught are
short-term remedies, not deep, life-long change. They’ve never actually lowered their
identity-investment and become permanently attractive men, they’ve merely thought
up more and more ways to conjure higher investment from whichever women they’re